Want To Get Elected In 2008?
Here is How:
USE AWARENESS INSTEAD OF POWER
By Amy and
Today’s
As conflict resolution trainers, supervisors, and therapists, we would like to see more from our leaders than what we have seen on TV during the presidential debates. Candidates for the
Democracy is something special. It is an idea, a method and an atmosphere that welcomes diversity and multiple viewpoints. We hope our leaders will transform the present day boxing-match style of political discourse and instead, model a deeper democracy. We want them to represent people, and also create an atmosphere in which our deepest feelings have room to emerge. Here are some tips (with a minimum of our own theories) about how to do that.
1. Use Awareness instead of Power: With the use of awareness instead of power, political discourse could be so inviting that even those
2 Use Insight to Deal with Hostility. During one democratic debate, candidates spoke about how to deal with the so called, “hostile world leaders”. We would like our candidates to say, “We must first protect ourselves and not be naïve about the future. We need solid protection. But let me assure you. Strong borders are not enough. I’ll deal with “those hostile world leaders” out there, by protecting ourselves and also by not becoming just a “hostile leader” myself! Besides protecting our borders, I will also try to see the essence of their viewpoints. I’ll notice not just their anger, but their fear as well. I’ll see their desperation and secret longing to create a safer, richer, more sustainable future for themselves and their people. Don’t worry. I won’t be naïve about them. Still, I will model a more human global community and a deeper way of dealing with hostility. My point is that the “evil, dangerous, hostile leader” is not just out there. Without an insight, you and I can easily become the “evil other”, by trying to solve problems only with power instead of also with awareness. By awareness, we mean awareness of the essence of the other’s viewpoint.”
3 Learn to Cook. In one debate, Hillary Clinton quoted Harry Truman as saying, “If you can’t take the heat in the kitchen, get out.” The kitchen is a wonderful metaphor. It’s the core of a family, the source of teamwork. The kitchen is the heart that holds us all together. Democracy could be such a kitchen. We’re not just a melting pot in the
When the question of who has the most experience to be president arises, we also ask, who is the best cook? Who has the best history of successful interpersonal and international communication? Who can model the world she or he wants? Any candidate who uses awareness instead of power creates a new page in world history. That’s the candidate we want.
*Arnold and Amy Mindell are therapists and community resolution facilitators.
They have written many books, work together as a team, consulting, facilitating, and working with individuals, organizational development projects for small and large businesses and cities. They have worked with government groups, Aboriginal communities and many groups around the world. For more, see www.aamindell.net.